Handfasting, With a Side of Egyptian
The wedding is just over 200 days away.
Erin, my mom, and I are going to go look at venues this weekend. I have my wedding party finalized, and we’ve picked our colors. Our guest list is pushing 150-175, and we’ll be sending out “Save The Dates” relatively soon (as soon as we nail down our venue). We’re getting legally married at the wedding, and it’ll be in South Carolina.
We’re planning on having a handfasting ceremony, but with our own Kemetic spin on things. I don’t want any circle cast or corners called because that’s not something we do in our general worship. Nothing, and I mean nothing, is going to be typical at our wedding ceremony (everything from the wedding party, to the wedding march, to the actual ceremony itself will be uniquely ours).
The roots of handfastings go way back. They use to be used to marry commoners or the poor instead of doing an expensive marriage. The ceremony would be simple, and then the couple would move in together and that would be that. Today, the services are more involved, and depending on who’s getting hitched, they can be quite different from one to the next.
Often times, there’s a time frame involved (A year and day, for some), but then sometimes, there’s not. Sometimes there’s a skit, sometimes there isn’t. Sometimes the couple will jump a broom, and sometimes… you guessed it… they don’t. Everyone’s handfasting is unique, but the one thing they all have in common is the actually tying of the hands.
It’s a symbol of joining together: two lives becoming one. You physically tie yourself to your about-to-be-spouse to show that the two of you are joined together. Everything that happens surrounding this moment is generally up to the couple.
For Erin and I’s event, I plan on wearing a traditional wedding dress, but with red accents. Red is a traditional pagan wedding color in that it symbolizes love and passion. We’re going to have our processional happen to an atypical wedding march, and then we’ll say our vows, exchange rings, be bound together before the Gods, family, and friends before leaving and heading to the party!
We have toyed with the idea of staying tied until the wedding night, but I’m not sure that plan is feasible. If there are dances to be had then I may need to be able to move freely. Whatever we end up deciding, I know one thing for sure: once the handfasting cords are tied, they will never be untied. And we’ll frame them to hang in our house somewhere as a testimony to our commitment.
I’m wondering about ceremony wording, though, and if anyone has any suggestions for books or websites for research, I will more than happily take them.
Posted on December 4, 2014, in Kemetic, Paganism, Religion, Religion and tagged Handfasting, kemetic, Lesbian Relationships, LGBT, Love, marriage, pagan, paganism, Wedding. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.